tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5223027726680052006.post1217720939710120868..comments2023-07-15T00:49:06.852-07:00Comments on asexy beast: Understanding + Resistant AestheticsIlyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12795337226989102549noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5223027726680052006.post-36922358727715657692011-12-13T22:32:40.764-08:002011-12-13T22:32:40.764-08:00@litatrix: Yay for coming out! But those are f...@litatrix: Yay for coming out! But those are frustrating reactions. You might try to say something like, "So, remember when I told you that I'm asexual? It sounded like you thought I was joking. It's something really important to me, though. This is my sexual orientation, like being gay or straight, so it's an important part of my life. You're a good friend and I want to feel like I can be myself with you." <br /><br />Okay, that might not sound like you at all (I'm not sure it sounds like me, either), but you're right: asexuality is not well known, and a lot of people won't even know it's a sexual orientation unless we tell them. If you feel like it, you can direct people to information online, like the Wikipedia page about asexuality, or the FAQs from AVEN or Asexual Awareness Week. If someone's willing to go look stuff up and educate themselves, that's a good sign.<br /><br />Personally I feel like coming out is sort of continual. It can take some people a while to get it, although that doesn't necessarily mean that they never will. If someone's a close friend, it's worth trying to educate them more, not just about asexuality, but what it means to you, and why you're telling them. But it can be kind of draining, so please don't feel obligated to do more than you're comfortable with.<br /><br />Anyway, you could play it lots of different ways, these are only a few. I hope your friends start to catch on!Ilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12795337226989102549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5223027726680052006.post-47515876204714304362011-12-13T18:07:33.981-08:002011-12-13T18:07:33.981-08:00Hi Ily,
So I tried to come out of the closet to s...Hi Ily, <br />So I tried to come out of the closet to some of my clos friends over about the past week. I've gotten mixed reactions. The most positive reaction I've had is...<br />"That's awesome! Now you can cut off your arm and babies will spring forth!" <br /><br />And pretty much all of the others have just laughed in my face, because they don't realize how serious I'm being.<br /><br />I have discovered that the reason they don't take it seriously is because there I a huge information deficit about asexuality among the general population. Most just think that it means I have no sexual preference and will take anyone of any sex.<br /><br />Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!<br />Thank you!<br />Litatrixlitatrixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13286600848606242210noreply@blogger.com