tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5223027726680052006.post2100149456289704663..comments2023-07-15T00:49:06.852-07:00Comments on asexy beast: MilkIlyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12795337226989102549noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5223027726680052006.post-21225758335620158242008-12-23T16:14:00.000-08:002008-12-23T16:14:00.000-08:00Yep yep. What I want, which we'll hopefully get a...Yep yep. What I want, which we'll hopefully get at some point, is a balanced portrayal. I don't want "Asexuals are going to die aloooooone!" and I don't want "You have to show that you're happy!" either. I think there can be quite a bit of "forced optimism" in the asexual community, as there also is in disabled communities. I want to make sure we can speak freely, whether our experiences are happy or sad. But, I wouldn't go so far as to say that we should put sad things right up front on purpose (even though from my post, it might have looked like that).Ilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12795337226989102549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5223027726680052006.post-51068623964383697222008-12-23T14:35:00.000-08:002008-12-23T14:35:00.000-08:00I'm all for recognizing and combatting hopelessnes...I'm all for recognizing and combatting hopelessness where it does exist, but I'm initially resistant to the idea of focusing on it. I think that would complicate the fact that, in the larger queer community, there's such a need for positive representation. (At the same time we're trying to lower the rate of suicides, et cetera, don't we need to do something to remind ourselves that being queer doesn't automatically translate to depression/ death/ etc?) In my own limited experience in the ace community, I've noticed that there's a real comfort to people when they connect with other asexual folks and realize that they CAN live happy lives. So, while I see the need to come up with a way that raising awareness is vital, I'd resist the depression angle as the main or only one. You know?<BR/><BR/>p.s. I saw Milk last weekend and thought it was great, too. What an incredible leader.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5223027726680052006.post-64613879620701226702008-12-14T11:20:00.000-08:002008-12-14T11:20:00.000-08:00Yep, "ace" just means asexual.Yep, "ace" just means asexual.Ilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12795337226989102549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5223027726680052006.post-87995337671141291942008-12-13T08:03:00.000-08:002008-12-13T08:03:00.000-08:00"ace" ah a new word of the gay! so would an "ace"..."ace" ah a new word of the gay! so would an "ace" just be another word for asexual or is there something more to it I need to know before using it?Queers Unitedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05074493276489593816noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5223027726680052006.post-20832091076593613282008-12-09T00:46:00.000-08:002008-12-09T00:46:00.000-08:00When you come out, you see the best and worst in o...<I>When you come out, you see the best and worst in other people. </I><BR/><BR/>I agree. Although I haven't seen the worst, I've heard stories from gay friends who have. It's enough to give me pause before shouting "I'm Ace!" on the rooftops, even if being asexual doesn't carry as high a threat of violence. <BR/><BR/>Oh, and I'm sooo glad you posted on this movie! I was really hoping you would. :)The Impossible Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14085185367011832570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5223027726680052006.post-25787174079711513872008-12-08T21:37:00.000-08:002008-12-08T21:37:00.000-08:00I agree, the pressure to conform to certain standa...I agree, the pressure to conform to certain standards is something most of us, asexual and otherwise, could get behind. But there's just SO much going on in the world that it seems really difficult to get people interested in something unless it seems vital. I guess what I'm trying to say is that "asexual rights" aren't the same as gay rights, but they're still worth going after. It's really hard to fight against all the pressure to just "fit in". Well, this response is getting disproportionately long, but I want to say I appreciate your comments!Ilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12795337226989102549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5223027726680052006.post-32264365920246932522008-12-08T20:34:00.000-08:002008-12-08T20:34:00.000-08:00I don't know that it's a good idea to base a movem...I don't know that it's a good idea to base a movement on a scare tactic. Maybe a better route would be emphasizing how the pressure to conform to certain sexual standards hurts everyone. Aces would certainly be in the vanguard there.Fellmamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08651050366058663737noreply@blogger.com