tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5223027726680052006.post2598018297457260671..comments2023-07-15T00:49:06.852-07:00Comments on asexy beast: Strangers in the Night, Second and Final PartIlyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12795337226989102549noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5223027726680052006.post-80983331567175859102009-04-10T16:30:00.000-07:002009-04-10T16:30:00.000-07:00I think cohousing is a cool idea, and I wish it wo...I think cohousing is a cool idea, and I wish it would catch on more. There seem to be a relatively large number of cohousing communities in this area, but they have long waiting lists. And the cost of buying in would be prohibitive to most. The price might go down a bit if it was a more common thing.Ilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12795337226989102549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5223027726680052006.post-90123405687087601972009-04-10T12:32:00.000-07:002009-04-10T12:32:00.000-07:00Is co-housing a potential future solution for asex...Is co-housing a potential future solution for asexuals and other singles (including elderly) who need affordable housing and would like both privacy and community? Small cluster of studio or one-bedroom apartments with common area? Childless couples might also be interested in one-bedroom apartment co-housing units. Admittedly, I live in a low-cost market, but I know someone who lives in a co-housing unit in a converted old 6-flat (for the non-Midwesterners, that's a 6-unit apartment building - 2, 4, 6 flat buildings are often family owned and occupied by extended family members, or owner lives in one unit and rents out rest).NancyPnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5223027726680052006.post-53514207697033333412009-04-05T19:47:00.000-07:002009-04-05T19:47:00.000-07:00I guess I've been pretty lucky so far, because I'v...I guess I've been pretty lucky so far, because I've only ever had one roomate that really drove me nuts. I think this was mostly because we shared one very uncomfortable room that was roughly the size of a closet-- I think I would start to hate anyone in that situation.Ilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12795337226989102549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5223027726680052006.post-22918047661421850292009-04-05T16:27:00.000-07:002009-04-05T16:27:00.000-07:00I've had a lot of roommates- some more crazy than ...I've had a lot of roommates- some more crazy than others- so I definitely feel ya on this... One of my roommates was so OCD and obsessed with getting married, she'd lecture me anytime I left a crumb on the counter- "threatening" that I'd never get married if I couldn't keep an immaculate kitchen :P<BR/>(Of course, it took all my energy not to laugh or make a snarky remark)<BR/>Needless to say, roommate situations really can affect your mental health. I swear, I've had some that drove me to the edge of crazy...The Impossible Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14085185367011832570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5223027726680052006.post-23084334830300429732009-04-04T16:02:00.000-07:002009-04-04T16:02:00.000-07:00I agree, Isaac, it's a problem that the housing we...I agree, Isaac, it's a problem that the housing we have doesn't really fit what our families are like now-- more people are staying single longer. Then again, in cities, we don't really have the room for every individual to have their own house or apartment. My wish is that there was a better way for people like us to connect-- those for whom living with non-family is a more permanent situation.Ilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12795337226989102549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5223027726680052006.post-14867363221243356122009-04-04T05:31:00.000-07:002009-04-04T05:31:00.000-07:00Housing is an issue also in Spain. As you both hav...Housing is an issue also in Spain. As you both have remarked, it is an ace-specific issue since for us is no longer a temporary situation. It's evidently a life-long issue for aromantic people, like me, but also for romantic people who are in a relationship at distance. A cause of nowadays housing problem is urbanistic speculation. Spain has long tradition of housing speculation. In first decade of 17th century, the King's favorite Duke of Lerma moved twice the court in order to take advantage of the added value of housing in the capital. I think it is another consequence of straight-couple and family-values privilege. Housing unities are designed and built for nuclear families; that's a fact. Students groups are adapting themselves to live in rental apartments originally designed for families, since this is what they find in the market. This situation may last he first years of their careers, but their expectations are eventually settle in an apartment in property with a spouse, with or without formal marriage. Mortgage is the new form of marriage. Recently, as the first consequence in Spain of the world-wide crisis, the housing market bubble has burst. There are too many housing unities in the market, so there will be no new building in the next years. Therefore, family-designed housing will be the market for the next years.<BR/><BR/>I wish a more single-friendly housing market. My preferences are almost the same than yours. For me, living by myself would be the first item, and living with strangers the last one. In my opinion, it's better a known drawback than an unknown feature.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5223027726680052006.post-57903896252549894722009-04-03T13:32:00.000-07:002009-04-03T13:32:00.000-07:00Thanks, Lia. I know I can be really hypersensitiv...Thanks, Lia. I know I can be really hypersensitive to my surroundings, so I'm glad you agree that it's an important topic :-) From my own conversations (nothing scientific), it seems like a lot of people just assume that at some point, they'll move in with a partner, so whatever situation they're in now is temporary. I don't mean this as a bad thing at all, but I don't think we can necessarily assume that, whether we're sexual or asexual. We shouldn't have to settle on a partner just because we can't afford housing. And we shouldn't be at some permanent financial disadvantage if we're single. It's like that movie "Slaves of New York" where a woman stays with her abusive boyfriend because she couldn't afford another apartment. Sadly, I think that situation could actually happen.Ilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12795337226989102549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5223027726680052006.post-68952171036302460792009-04-02T19:05:00.000-07:002009-04-02T19:05:00.000-07:00I agree that concerns about one's living situation...I agree that concerns about one's living situation are not specifically an asexual problem. Finding adequate housing is an almost universal problem, especially with our current economic troubles and the ridiculous cost of housing in places like San Francisco and NYC. However, for an asexual who may not be expecting the conventional type of family, I think there are extra concerns about having to live with strangers or incompatible people. It's nice to live with "significant others", whoever they may be, and aces have to work harder to find those people and situations. That's why this is such an important topic to keep putting out there on this blog, on AVEN, and wherever else it can do the most good. Maybe that will facilitate the exchange of ideas and meeting up of people who want to find a better way to live.Liahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05305647080477133928noreply@blogger.com