Here's my list:
What attracts me to people?
- Courage without even knowing it. A non-judgemental and inclusive attitude.
- Knew we could be stronger if we banded together.
- Exuded an aura of cool.
- Great shoes and smile.
- A fellow neuroqueer, she's upfront about her difficulties and respected by almost all.
- She doesn't always have to be right. She's willing to look stupid, and willing to admit her mistakes.
- [A fairly long story about someone I had a crush on once. If he read this, he could easily identify himself, and that would be way too awkward!]
- Her organization, independence, and amazingly good luck.
- Mutual appreciation, maturity.
- Has a way with words, affectionate.
- Doesn't hide her confusion. Always down for having fun. Open to suggestions.
At the time when I made this list, I was kind of distressed about being asexual, and doing this exercise helped to make me feel better. I'm trying to think of why exactly this was, but I don't remember. I also enjoyed reading it again and seeing what I value most about people--it hasn't changed much throughout my lifetime. So, what characteristics would make your list?
(If it's not obvious, I'm a big fan of lists. If you're ever down on yourself or having a really bad day, make a list of 10 good things about yourself. It sounds corny, and you may not believe it works, but it will make you feel a lot better-- I promise!)