I was recently reading a young-adult novel called Perfect You. Even though the title actually refers to a brand of vitamins, it is indeed a love story. At the beginning of the book, the heroine is very attracted to a guy that she thinks is an asshole.
And I don't get that at all! Is it an asexual thing? If I don't like someone's personality, they're literally ugly to me. At times, I've thought someone was cute, but the minute they're revealed to be obnoxious or hold views I strongly oppose, my perception immediately changes. It's like how people would say, "Yeah, Sarah Palin's political ideas terrify me, but she is kind of hot." And like how a friend of mine expressed some shock that I didn't think San Francisco mayor Gavin Newsom is sexy. Not only do I totally disagree with a lot of Newsom's governance ideas ("Ooh, let's stop giving homeless people money and give them services! Psych! There are no services!") , but he just doesn't seem like a nice guy in any way. I have no idea why he keeps getting elected-- does he somehow use hotness as a sort of hypnotism that only asexual people and Republicans are immune to?
However, if I like someone's personality, does that automatically mean that I find them unbearably attractive? Uh, no. Like macaroni and neon cheese powder, personality and attractiveness appear to be two separate things that can only exist together, at least for me.